A good dose of guilt may be what's called for.

Did you know that evangelical Christians are hurting the institution of marriage by telling young people they should not have sex outside of marriage? According to Mark Regnerus, a University of Texas sociologist, evangelicals "have made much ado about sex," but are damaging the institution of marriage by discouraging and delaying sex. 

Statistics show that more than 93% of adults 18 to 23 who are in romantic relationships are having sex. Well, gosh, if 93% are doing it, it must be OK no matter what God says! Margie Zumbrun says that young Christians who have sex are made to feel like they are bad people. Well, Margie, they have disobeyed God. A good dose of guilt should be expected!

Jimmy Hester, co-founder of True Love Waits, disagrees with the argument that abstinence past a certain age is too much to ask. "There are too many examples of people who have done it," he said.

I agree with Hester. I was young once, and I know what raging hormones feel like, but if we say we can't control our own bodies, then we are no more than animals. I've heard of many instances of people who wish they had waited, but I can't recall a one who wished he had not.

"Mixed signals on sex, marriage." The Dallas Morning News; August 10, 2009; p. 4A.