What kind of people are these parents?

 

How many of you would find it acceptable to subject your children to national public ridicule? I do not understand the reasoning and the logic of the parents of Coy Mathis, one of a set of triplets.

 

Coy Mathis is a little 6-year-old boy whose parents have allowed him to believe he is a girl. Coy's school refused to allow him to use the little girls' restroom but told him he did not have to use the little boys' room, either. He could use the restroom in the nurse's office or the restroom in the teacher's lounge.

 

Now, if Coy didn't announce to the world that he was going to the restroom, how many of those kids do you think would have even taken notice that he wasn't going to the same restrooms they were? But Coy's parents raised a big ruckus and put him in the national spotlight. Little Coy was suffering humiliation, stigmatization, and discrimination, they claimed. Well, he certainly is now! At a press conference (where Coy was dressed in a glittery pink top and pink tennis shoes), the parents celebrated a ruling by the Colorado Division of Civil Rights that said Coy could use the little girls' room.

Who do you suppose dressed Coy in the girly clothes? His mother says that from the time he was 18-months-old, he wore a little fairy dress with a tutu and a Dora the Explorer bathing suit. I don't think Coy went out and bought them and dressed himself. His dad says that when they sent out photos of him dressed this way, they began to "detect a pattern." No foolin', Clyde??!! They say that at around four years of age, Coy began to ask when he was going to the doctor to get his "girl parts." How did a four-year-old even know of such a thing? Maybe Mama and Daddy, for some hinky reason, told him they were going to get him some "girl parts"? No, I don't think Coy's school has had anything to do with humiliating and stigmatizing him -- his clueless parents are handling that very well by themselves.

 

As for Coy, he says, "Not even my teachers know I'm a girl!" If Coy has male genitalia, he is not a girl. My question is how the parents of all the little girls in that school feel about a little boy using the bathroom with their daughters. If I were those parents, I'd be demanding a separate bathroom for my daughter!

Note of interest: I did a little internet research and found that this family lived in the Austin, Texas, area when the triplets were born. Wouldn't you think that a woman pregnant with triplets would be at a higher risk than one with a single baby or even twins? Well, this dodo had the kids at home, and one of the children is profoundly disabled from having contracted an infection. I found a website where they were seeking donations of diapers, gift cards, formula, etc. It included this interesting note from the mother: "Thank you all so much for continuing to care. My family has just stopped
coming over or trying to really help at all." Why do you suppose that would be? I cannot imagine a grandmother, aunt, or uncle not offering help in a situation like that. What could these people have done to estrange their families?

And here's another perspective I found from the mom of another set of triplets: "My opinion, based on my knowledge, is the mom of this child is a fame-seeking attention [expletive deleted], who will stop at nothing to prove how edgy and non-mainstream she is, even at the expense of her child's privacy. I 'met' her online six years ago when she came to the Triplet Connection and made a huge ruckus because she was dead-set on homebirthing her 'natural' triplets in a kiddie pool in her living room. I thought she was a faker, so I immediately set out to see if she was real, or not, where I discovered that she didn't, in fact, have 'natural' triplets. She had ordered clomid from Mexico, and gotten pregnant using non-prescribed fertility drugs."

And yet another perspective on how her little girl became disabled:
 
And then there was the "Donate to buy a wheelchair van for Lily" campaign. For $1, they'd friend you on Twitter or Facebook or some such nonsense. For $10 you'd get a public Facebook thank you. For $100 you'd get a picture drawn by Lily (the child the mother claims is helpless as a 2-month-old -- can't say that I've seen much art by infants that young). And for $500 you'd get a playdate with Lily. One mother blogged back that she'll let you come play with her kids for $500, too!

Some of the blogging moms of triplets think this woman is guilty of Munchhausen's by Proxy. They may just be on to something there.

 

http://fourtimesthefun.blogspot.com/2013/02/the-one-where-i-weigh-in-on.html

"Transgender girl wins ruling." The Dallas Morning News; June 25, 2013; p. 4A.